If you are a woman looking for the perfect man then that is were you are going wrong. You can not really expect to find something that truly does not exist at the time you are looking. Most boys continue to mature into a man from an early age. So just like a scotch the longer you have it the more it matures in taste and value. However, that taste does not change much. So just as you boy grows your value for him will grow. For example realize every man regardless of age is just a grown up version of their teenage self usually 13-17. If the man you are dating was a huge Sci-Fi fanatic as a boy. Well you can rest assure even as he grows older that will remain. He might not necessarily have a huge collection. However, there will always be time devoted to his early fantasies. Just like Star Wars binges or the great debate on who is a better captain on Star Trek. Same goes for every sports fan. Most of them played some form of sports as an adolescent. In which as a so called adult hey relive fantasies through these games. So with all passions these boys connect and hold emotional attachment with them in and well beyond maturity. Which would be no different from Artists, Musicians, L.A.R.P.E.R.S., Toon fanatics, ComicCon junkies, Civil War reenactments, Adrenaline Junkies, Druggies etc. Let’s face it come game day even the toughest alpha male can be found half naked cheering his team on in subzero temperatures drinking beer just to live the thrill of comrade and victory again. Just to have a chance to be victorious and to say we did it. So learn the group of boys you like. Become familiar with their lingo, slang, margin, chants, handshakes, colors, genre, and philosophy. As that is who they are. You wouldn’t want someone to change you now would you?
Well if you are saying yes to change. Chances are you enforce change and they will rebel. That’s what a boy would do. So the truth is going to hurt. No matter how hard you try you will still have the boy. How many men do you know that has a game consoles? Problem is that the majority of men are just boys pretending to be men. So with that in mind let’s go onward to changing yourself. Not saying that is always needed. Though if you are expecting someone to be something they are not well chances are you need to move on or reevaluate yourself. So yes I said it , “Change yourself.” If it is reevaluation remember you are number one. Chase your dreams. Who is it you want to be? With that focus on positivity on wanting to change yourself for the better you then will be able to open your eyes, mind and heart easier to deal with boyish men that cross your path. So be wise. Think of your outlook. This positivity will open doors to attract more. Once this happens remember the boy that will compliment your goals and dreams as well as he won’t change. Only you can. A bonus to this form of change and self realization is that you will see that confidence it brings will attract both sexes and more opportunities of growth. A Special bonus is boys are attracted to confidence.
The final stage to adopting that boy that someday will be your man is taking the initiative to understanding we are your first born with sexual privileges. If you don’t think so. Well maybe you haven’t seen a grown man sick, hungry, tired or horny. Then again it’s the same as a young boy. So as you deal with sickness. You will also deal with flaws. Just as a ball can pass through a window.
You will have some juvenile mishaps. For this last final realization of your dream man really being a boy. I give you this final thought. If you take a 13 year old boy, an 18 year old boy, a 40 year old man and a 99 year old man you will finally see the boys are still together regardless of age difference. If you gave each of them a few matches, gun powder, gasoline, a bottle, duct tape and a fuse. I am sure with time they would all end up with similar results. As the analogy of the scotch, The end results would hopefully mature with age. The 99 year old will hopefully put off a display of knowledge by constructing a well crafted firework/bomb. The 40 year old might singe an eyebrow. The 18 year old will probably only burn himself and a friend. While hopefully the 13 year old gets caught before they burn down the house and maybe cause a trip to the cemetery. So keep in mind of the boy you adopt. If he does not meet your expectations. Well release him back into the wild then continue on back to the beginning again. As not all people are meant for one another and not all adoptions are smooth. Yet now you have a little more of a game plan. As I hope this gives you a little comprehension behind adopting a boy also known as finding your “Dream Man”. – Jeffery Page
